“People come into your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime.” That’s a quote someone told me awhile back. A thought that helps when people walk out or become too toxic for your life.
But how do we process the pain that exists because of their absence? And how do we move forward when all we can think about is that pain or the time we lost investing in that person?
God brings people into our lives to teach us something. Whether we know why at the moment or years later, but God orchestrates each individual for a purpose. Maybe your friends are causing you pain, but you hold on because you call them friends. Maybe there’s a family member who constantly brings you down or makes you feel unworthy because of their success. Maybe it’s a coworker who started a whirlwind of drama and now you have to walk on eggshells at work.
This list could go on forever with the pains people have caused or the relationships that we’ve lost. But the encouragement here is that God will remove that pain. In John, Jesus talks about being the vine, and how God removes the unfruitful branches so that the fruitful ones will bare more fruit.
The truth is, the longer we hold on to the toxicity or damaging relationships, the more joy and life gets sucked out of us. Let God remove those people, and accept His comfort by knowing this process gives you more joy in the end.
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bare fruit he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful.” -John 15:1-2
“For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light. (For the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) and find out what pleases the Lord. Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of the darkness, but rather expose them.” -Ephesians 5:8-11